Fetishes: Freaky or Sensual

Hello everyone!
It has been a while since it was my turn and I swear every time it is my turn I never have a clue what to write about. LOL This time the topic popped into my head after a friend told me how this guy propositioned her.
My topic, Fetishes: Freaky or Sensual is relevant in the world of romance. I mean, honestly, how many fetishes are out there do we see in romances and how many turn us on or off? Well, I decided to explore that for a bit. Now, I’m not going to get into who likes what or what I like (never that!) I’m just going to play devil’s advocate and speak like a fly on the wall. :-)
I decided to look into fetishes that men have because, well, I like men and the more I can learn about them the better my characters get. (*shrugs* that’s my line of thing anyway) When I started to look into fetishes I asked around and found that people can have a fetish about anything! Shoes, stockings, nails, hair, body parts from the top of your head to the soles of your feet! So I wondered how does one ‘get’ a fetish? I asked around about that, too, and found the answers made me go ‘hmm, I can see that’ and some made me go, ‘oookaaay, I’ll give that a nine on my strange-o-meter’ and there was even a few that I had to add to my, ‘damn!‘ list.
Some of the reasons were sexually based. Young boys coming into their sexuality find themselves in compromising positions with different objects as they peek in on the women they are transfixed on at the time. When they reach the goal they were trying to achieve (work with me here, I’m trying to keep this clean and politically correct.) said object becomes synonymous to that good feeling. If the behavior continues so does the connection. Over time the object in question makes you horny (can I say that?) because it reminds you of the good feeling and you’ve got yourself a fetish. Ta da!
For example: one guy told me with such lust in his voice and eyes about how he absolutely loved high heels on his women. He was in the closet when his sisters friend spent the night and his, umm, appendage, (that’s a good word) was pressed against the shoes she had worn to a party as he, well, pleasured himself. He could feel the shoe, but didn’t want to draw attention to himself by moving around so he left it. As an adult he makes sure his women wore shoes in bed with him because it takes him back to those good feelings.
Another guy said the very first time he was with a woman as he, uhh, reached climax, he could feel her nails raking down his back so hard he could feel blood as he lay on her catching his breath. Yet, even though it was painful, it felt good to him and he is turned on by women with long nails.
You may find these to be a little weird or freaky or maybe sensual. I don’t know. This is not psych 101 by the hands of Dana Littlejohn, by no means. This info came first hand from talking to several, close to fifty men over the age of 30. ( I told them it was a survey for school, sexual psychology or something. LOL) So with this new nothing I came to the conclusion that…men are strange! Kidding! Seriously, fetishes can derive from anything and whether they are freaky or sensual depends on your taste.
I also decided that the passion that some men spoke of their fetishes led me to do a story on one. So this December coming from Phaze is my fetish story, Happy Feet. Be sure to check it out! Until next time…Dana has left the building!
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